The Anne Report brings you up to date on Anne’s latest activities. The Main Article, Conscious Communication, provides practical tips for effective communication. In the Anne Talk, Celebrating Life, Anne shares a clear path for you to start living life in celebration. Click to see Anne’s Art. In the Dr. Money Talk, What Are Your Prosperity Skills?, Anne recommends that you analyze your prosperity skills so you can practice them when needed. Click to see the Quotes. The Featured Product This Month highlights Anne’s fourth book, Words Make a Difference. Click to learn about EZosophy. Click to learn about Anne’s Abundance Affirmations. Click for Shareables From Anne. Click to learn about Anne’s Schedule. Click to Schedule Anne. Click to learn about Anne’s Services.

Anne’s 8 Word Miracle Mantra: “Everything can be EZ or at least EZier.  Anne Sermons Gillis

Living EZosophy, December 1, 2020
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The Anne Report

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We put our Christmas tree up Thursday. Unfortunately, and predictably, the lights we had did not work. What is it with Christmas tree lights? Do all the light manufacturers get together to see how they can make lights that barely hang in for one year so people will be forced to buy new sets each year? As I am sure you know, manufacturers intentionally plan obsolescence in their goods. Shame on them! I ordered new LED lights, and my hope is that they will hang on for several years. Do you too have troublesome lights?

This year people are welcoming the holidays more than ever before. With the rise of COVID and COVID related deaths, maybe we long for a bit of magic. My neighbors sprinkled their yards with Christmas, weeks ago. I put up my wreath and outside lighted trees the week before Thanksgiving. Christmas threw up in one of our neighbor’s yard. There must have been several hundred Christmas items in the yard. It is the most decorated yard, per square foot, I have ever seen. I remarked to Jim, “Someone has a serious shopping addiction!” I cannot wait to bring Thomas and Reynolds to see it.

My days go like this. Morning: personal work and life maintenance. Afternoon: write. Evening: cook dinner; eat. Night: watch a Christmas movie. I will enjoy this Christmas as never before. Rejoice, rejoice; it is the perfect choice this holiday season, and that is it for the Anne Report.

  Main Article

Conscious Communication

“Most people do not have conversations; they have parallel monologues.” Alan Cohen

Relationships hang on good communication. When we misunderstand each other, conflict often ensues. The following ideas offer insight into our communication with others. It is up to us to develop good communication skills. Speaking and listening effectively are equally important in communication.

The following seven actions shut down good communication. I am an extrovert. Extroverts are famous for the first two on the list. Do you have any of these habits?

1. Interrupting the one speaking.

2. Finishing each other’s sentences.

3. Rushing the other person so they will finish, with such actions as looking at your watch, sighing, or drumming your fingers.

4. Topping the speaker’s story. “I’ve got one better than that.”

5. Looking everywhere except at the one who is speaking.

6. Overusing the mouth and underusing the ears. Do we give the other person room in the conversation to speak or do we give a monologue?

7. Offering suggestions on how to fix the problem when the person has not asked for help. “I was only trying to help,” does not work when the help someone needs is a friend to listen so they can get their emotions out. Emotions have fire, and sometimes the best way to extinguish the fire is to talk them through. Extroverts, more so than introverts, need a listening ear so they can work through their problems and emotions. Trying to help interrupts the process. When we continually try to fix our mates’ and friends’ problems, it can backfire. Alan Cohen says, “Helping is a gift, but creating dependency is damaging.” I ask friends, “Do you need suggestions on fixing this or do you just need me to listen?”

Then there is the other side of listening. It is almost impossible to listen to people who exist under a wall of words. They dribble and drool their words and will not let us get in a word edgewise. We do our best to free ourselves from these situations. I find that when I get radically present, look directly at them, and come a bit closer, they often change their direction. I have penetrated their wall, and they either move back into their words and get real or they get quiet. I cannot always pull this off, and I have been known to bide my time until I can escape! No one’s perfect.

When I speak with my friends, I try to give the floor to them 50% of the time. I do not want to hog the conversation unless there are special circumstances, and when they are, I give my friends a heads up. “I am in an emotional crisis. I cannot give you anything right now, but I do need your support and attention. Does that work for you?”

I once taught a class where I had the students actively listen. I used the simple method where the listener looks into the eyes of the speaker, listens, and repeats back what he or she hears. When I asked for feedback, one brawny young football player spoke, “No one has ever really listened to me.” He was choked up and could barely speak. He had never been heard! What a profound moment for both him and me. He felt seen and heard for the first time in his life, and I saw how such a simple act can make a profound difference. Though it was a profound moment for him, I felt sad that he was invisible to those around him.

Though listening is of paramount importance, it is equally important that we be present and focused when we talk to others. These words by Charles W. Pratt expresses the angst or confusion we feel when someone vacates the premises while their body is still present.

No Traces

I think your eyes have moved under your heart and that your mind has lost its fingers because you don’t touch anymore.

Whenever we talk, you wear gloves on every word, and when you are gone, I examine the scene of our meeting but find no fingerprints.

Each us of deals with relationships on a daily basis. Relationships are tricky, but when we learn to be good listeners, are fully present when we speak, and give respect to our friends, family, and coworkers, we find that life becomes EZier and EZier.

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  Featured Product This Month

“Books are waiting to be written. Thus, it was my privilege to bring this book to the world. It brought with it such grace and love. Words Make a Difference sparkles with aliveness and blessing and delivers the perfect information under perfect timing. We are called not only to heal ourselves and those around us, we are destined to hold a vision for the world. This book commands us to be architects of a brave new future and lights a path for us to follow.” Anne Sermons Gillis

Order Words Make a Difference from the website or call me at 713.922.0242 to order directly from me. The price is $16.95 plus $3.99 shipping, for a total of $20.94.

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  What is EZosophy?

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  Anne Talk

Celebrating Life

Celebrating Life. If you think you don't have the time, information, or energy to do the things you love to do, this talk cuts a clear path for you to think again and to start living life in celebration. This talk was given at Unity Church of Practical Christianity in Webster, Texas. Time: 21:08

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  Dr. Money Talk

What Are Your Prosperity Skills?

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In the Dr. Money Talk, What Are Your Prosperity Skills?, Anne recommends that you analyze your prosperity skills so you can practice them when needed. 4:11

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This group is a place to post uplifting affirmations and thoughts about prosperity and abundant living. Let’s create a right relationship with money so that we feel comfortable about money. Let’s use money as it’s meant to be used, and not as a way to accumulate power or to fill a void. We don’t need money to buy more stuff. We need it to create a world that works for everyone. We want to cast off old beliefs of lack and reclaim our natural state of abundance. Anne, AKA Dr. Money, posts a nightly goodnight video for the prosperity team, and everyone who watches those videos becomes a part of the prosperity team.

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