Money Madness or Money Gladness

We live in a world that dangles the prospect of more money. This offer promises that money will fix our lives. While it is true that money can solve some problems, there are many problems money cannot resolve. 

 People, who face losing services such as electricity or water, do not expect the same things from money as a person who spends endless hours shopping. If you are chronically financially strapped or can't buy the designer purse you desire, the economy and your account balance may not be the problem. Money drama is addictive.  My friend told me that she was dropping money drama one day at the time. She understands the allure of drama.

Fortunately, it is possible to relate to money and one's financial life with more passion and less pain. Strangely enough, in our country, people who have plenty of money still suffer about money.  We suffer from abundance abuse. We were trained not to experience the gracious nature of life and to feel as if we will never have enough.

Money is neutral, but it lends itself to all kinds of process addictions. Spending on unnecessary items or excessive bargain shopping are examples of process addictions. Process addictions are about getting high from an action as opposed to putting chemicals in the body. Learning how to be an adult and take care of ourselves involves having a good relationship with money. Money wisdom is an integral part of self-care. We need to be able to budget, to say "no" to frequent impulse buying, and to see our identities as independent of our bank account balances. Inserting ourselves into someone else's life and becoming their financial benefactor can foster dependency. Even though helping highs feel good, all giving is not beneficial. Giving can be innocent and quite beautiful, but when it comes to money and altruism, things can get slimy quickly.  My mother had a giving addiction and one time she gave away all her money. This left her without the ability to pay her bills. She was a financial anorexic. Fortunately when my sister contacted these organizations, and told them the problem, most of them returned the money.

I spoke to a woman whose life was financially out of control. Her suffering wasn't about the amount of money she needed to pay her bills; she had enough for the present, her suffering was about the possibility of future lack. She was not in anguish, however worry is a form of suffering and she really worried. After our conversation I wrote the following letter:

If you want to make a lasting change in your relationship with money, it takes willingness - willingness to make daily changes in your mind and heart. It took many years to develop your current relationship with money. Good news. It is possible to make an immediate breakthrough in your money case. Temporary changes are easy, but sustainable comprehensive change requires lifestyle and emotional changes. If you have a tooth abscess, your dentist can relieve the pain and fix your tooth, but to think that is all you must do to keep your teeth healthy would be naive. You need good dental hygiene for healthy teeth. Good money mental hygiene is necessary for a healthy financial life. Our culture supports money panic. In order to go against the tide of consciousness we must surround our minds with thoughts of beauty, appreciation, love and abundance.

Here's an example of some of the work you can do to help unravel your money disease. And it is a disease. We catch it from our parents. Make a list of 20 benefits you receive from having only enough money to barely squeak by. One payoff might be that you never have to grow up and you can always get someone to rescue you. This payoff is formulated in getting the attention you never received from a parent. Pay attention as you make your list. See if you can root out the secondary gains your subconscious mind has for wanting things you to live with money scarcity or financial pain. It's hard to believe, but the amount of money you have is the amount your subconscious mind thinks is best for you. In some ways your mind thinks it's doing you a favor, but the medicine of its twisted protection is worse than the protection itself. This process helps you to find hidden motivations for you current financial situation and emotional drama.

Attachment will not get you what you want. Hanging on will not get you what you want. Contemplate the words abundance and prosperity in meditation and see if you can directly experience their essence. Enthusiasm and excitement get you what you want because the enthusiasm itself is fulfilling. It is okay to want when it brings you more in contact with your sacred self. Most wanting takes away from life; it does not add - understand your desires and see if they have true value.  The word enthusiasm means being filled with God. The gift in this situation is for you to live life from the inside out. You are being given the opportunity to learn to want, hope and dream in a powerful way that feeds your soul. The journey begins now. The moment of abundance is only now and the door to everything is inside.

I send abundance and love and know that you have more than enough of everything necessary to prosper in every way. Your destiny is perfect happiness now. Accept it. Don't hang onto the drama.  All manifestations of poverty are only signposts to guide you gently into the resplendent world of your Self. Let go of your poverty and rest in your prosperity.

I hope my letter to her addresses some of your needs.

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Have a great day. Turn your mind from money madness to money gladness. Everything can be easy or at least easier.

Happy Compassion Day

As many of you know by now I am making everyday a holiday. I declare today Compassion Day. Compassion is very different than sympathy. Compassion is empathy with heart. Sympathy is a word we use when someone dies, yet sympathy is more removed than compassion. Compassion occurs when we can put ourselves in the other person's shoes and feel what they feel. Compassion is the thing that allows a mother to love her child when s/he screams "I hate you." It is the salve than helps us understand and not seek retribution for acts of anger or revenge. Compassion keeps our hearts open and helps heal past wounds.