The Anne Report brings you up to date on Anne’s latest activities. The Main Article, From Victimhood to Victory, reminds us that people can turn around a sense of victimhood by taking definite actions to alter that course. In today’s Anne Talk, Important Question, Anne strongly encourages you to ask yourself this question. Click to see Anne’s Art. In the Dr. Money Talk, The Prosperity of Feeling Good, Anne reminds us that simply feeling good helps us attract prosperity easier. Click to see the Quotes. The Featured Product This Month highlights Anne’s third book, Standing in the Dark. Click to learn about EZosophy. Click to learn about Anne’s Abundance Affirmations. Click for Shareables From Anne. Click to learn about Anne’s Schedule. Click to Schedule Anne. Click to learn about Anne’s Services.

Anne’s 8 Word Miracle Mantra: “Everything can be EZ or at least EZier.  Anne Sermons Gillis

Living EZosophy, May 25, 2021
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Our grands spent the weekend with us. It was a full house. My friend Mary leaves this morning, but with Grandpoppy, me, Mary, the twins, and our dog, Lucy, it was an event-filled weekend. We picked peaches and strawberries on Saturday morning and went to our neighborhood lake, Buffalo Lake, on Sunday morning. We filled the fire pit with dead limbs and pine cones and started a small fire. This kept the boys running for about an hour, as they continued to refuel the fire. At bedtime, when I was telling the boys a Hoppy the Poppy Frog goodnight story, Reynolds tried to bite my foot and suck my big toe. Thomas explained to Reynolds that that was not good manners. I went over the germ theory with him.

Thomas told me that he found out that I was a lawyer and that I made videos. I think his mom told him I was a counselor, and somehow that got turned into a lawyer. The boys had asked their mom about my career and she explained to them what I did, though, as I just mentioned, it seems as if their understanding was a bit off. Reynolds told his mom, “I bet I know what GrandMaMa’s favorite career is.” “What,” replied Mom. “Being our GrandMaMa.” My hearts melts over and over when I’m with the boys! And that’s it for the Anne Report.

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From Victimhood to Victory

The world speeds by with both its tragedies and its celebrations. It would be nice if we could hold onto the good events and not let them go, but to live fully, we must face everything life brings. Anything less than this results in a kick in the rear. Our avoidance or hanging on provides the Universe with a bull’s eye target for teaching. And when we miss the writing on the wall, the universe writes in the sky.

Fortunately,as we mature, life lures us inward, and it is in this inner space that we are sustained, through both the good and the bad. The external world is not wrapped in one neat package, but, luckily, the inner world provides us with the peace that makes life easier.

When we lose our health, our livelihood, or have a death in the family, it is essential that we do not feel sorry for ourselves. Grieving and feeling sorry for oneself are vastly different reactions to loss. When we grieve a loss, we can eventually let go. People want to support us when we authentically grieve, but feeling sorry for ourselves is like wearing friend repellent. It pushes away those whose compassion we really want. Feeling sorry for ourselves carries a sucking energy that drains others. We have all felt sucked dry by others.

Feeling sorry for others is the other side of the coin of feeling sorry for ourselves. The third EZosophy Vow is “I will not feel sorry for others.” It reminds us of the difference between compassion and putting people down. When we feel sorry for others, we define them by their problems, not their true selves. When someone is hurting, they do not need rescuing; they need company. They do not need answers; they need to know they are not alone. Feeling sorry for others sets us up to feel the strain of trying to pull someone from a hole, when what people really need is someone who believes in their capacity to climb from the hole. No one needs another person to take up the walk of life for them. Of course, this is figurative. If you find someone in a real hole, help them out!

Here are some of the symptoms of feeling sorry for ourselves.

• Asking or maybe whining, “Why does this always happen to me?”

• Repeatedly repeating or perhaps whining, “No one understands.” It can become a life mantra.

• Thinking that if someone else would change, we could be happy.

• Thinking, “No one appreciates me.” Or “You don’t appreciate me.”

• Thinking, “No one respects me.” Or “You don’t respect me.”

• Reading something into others’ facial expressions, that isn’t there, and then accusing them of disrespect or malice.

• Expecting malicious intent from others.

• Protecting ourselves unnecessarily to ensure others do not make a fool of us.

• Using emotional blackmail, for example, by giving others the silent treatment.

When we consistently feel sorry for ourselves, we assume the victim role. When we operate from a victim mentality, we brood. We develop a sense of entitlement or angry righteousness. Eventually, if we continue the victim role, we end up wanting revenge on others, and the sweetness of life sours.

There are many levels of feeling sorry for ourselves. Some are less harmful than others, but feeling sorry for ourselves is like planting a seed in a waterless desert and sticking around for the seed to sprout, grow, and bear fruit. Even if by some miracle the seed sprouts, without water it will wither, and the fruit will never appear, but we hang around anyway, just in case.

It may be EZier than we suspect to move from the victim role and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. Using the list above to recognize that we are suffering from victim sickness can go a long way in making the switch from one role to the other. Changing the tone of our voice when we share with others, holding our bodies upright, and not using the phrases above help pull us from defeat to victory. There is power in directly facing loss and realizing that we have power in most situations.

If you find yourself unable to extricate yourself from the victim role, you are probably dealing with more difficult issues. Staying stuck in the victim role can be a sign of repressed anger that you cannot deal with alone. You might want to seek professional help, or at least support, to learn how to successfully deal with suppressed anger or rage. Having a life coach or therapist can be invaluable, but they may not be affordable for everyone. 12 step programs such as CDA and ACOA offer support in dealing with deeper emotionally repressed issues and are offered without charge.

This discourse does not negate that we have real victims. People who are robbed, murdered, and raped are victims. This article is about a victim mentality that arises because of our behavior and internal messages; it is not about the external events of life itself. It is about how we psychologically deal with tragedy and loss.

Though it is tempting to be a victim, and it might get us a bit of attention, choosing the victim stance in life never brings more. It brings less, as it cripples us. It is always time to move from victimhood to victory, because when we do, life becomes EZier and EZier.

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Important Question

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The Prosperity of Feeling Good

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In today’s Dr. Money Talk, The Prosperity of Feeling Good, Anne reminds us that simply feeling good helps us attract prosperity easier. 4:34

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